Let It Go With Forgiveness

Forgiveness is for the forgiver, not the forgiven. Forgiving is not condoning. Forgiveness sets you free. Forgiveness brings abundance.

I was having lunch with a friend the other day. I’ll call her Susie (not her real name).

She talked for nearly 3 solid hours.

I said a few things, like “I get that”, “Wow”, “Whew”, Really”.

Seriously. She definitely needed someone to just listen. So, I did.

Her younger brother passed in October. Her mother followed less than 2 months later. Her mother's sister, her aunt, is angry at Susie for taking her mom to the hospital a few days before she passed. And for putting her mom into palliative care at the hospital.

I listened. She mentioned she knows she needs to make peace with her aunt because she doesn’t want to move away, which she is planning to do in a few months, with the anger between them.

Her husband told her she didn’t need to make peace. After all, he says, the aunt took things and used Susie's mom like a bank.

Susie still wants to make peace. And, she will if she really wants to. I know her well enough to know she isn’t going to listen to her husband for long if she disagrees with him.

Since she’s a friend and not a client, I did not share strategies with her about forgiving. I simply listened. And, told her that I was there if she needed me.

Sometimes that’s all a person needs. To know someone is there. To have someone listen. To have someone believe in them.

A few days later, Susie called me.

She had gone to see her aunt and it didn’t go well, but she wanted to let it go. In case her aunt dies sometime soon. Susie said she doesn’t want that on her conscience. We've known one another for a very long time, so she knows I've released some not-so-fun things, too. She asked me how I did it.

I shared the forgiveness mantra I use, a version of Ho'oponopono.

I led her through the exercise. Then, I texted her the mantra so she could use it whenever she felt the need.

She called me again a few days later to tell me what all had happened. She sounded a bit teary-eyed.

The day after we did the exercise together, her aunt called her. She’d found some of her mom’s jewelry. Susie knew some had been missing but had not questioned her aunt about it.

Susie told me she did the mantra for the next two nights because she was going to her aunt’s that weekend.

When she got to her aunt’s house, not only did her aunt give her the jewelry, but she also gave Susie photos, old George Jones albums (her mom was a huge fan), and some money. All things she found AFTER Susie had cleaned out her mom’s bedroom at her aunt’s house a few weeks earlier.

Susie was shocked because she was certain her cousins had taken the items. After all, they had said they wanted them.

Now, Susie is simply happy she has the items that meant so much to her mom. And, mostly, she’s happy that she and her mom’s only sister have made peace.

That’s what working through Ho’oponopono with a coach can do for you. Yes, you can do it on your own, but it’s faster with a coach. So much faster.

What are you ready to release? Are you ready to work with a coach? To find out what it’s like to work with this coach?

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Forgiving is not condoning. Forgiveness brings abundance.